There are times that we must have difficult conversations. Sure the truth hurts, but when the truth is spoken out of love it can help us identify areas of concern and the need for change. If you have a person in your life who is willing to lovingly speak truth, you would be wise to keep them around. As difficult as it may be, it is one of the most loving things we can do.
I have never lived life as a sedentary individual. Still, I spent a vast majority of my time not feeling well despite my activity level. For years I experienced debilitating cluster headaches and migraines, body aches and joint pain, extreme fatigue, and infertility. I visited physicians and specialists, took my medications, followed treatment plans, and never got better. In fact, I continued to feel worse and my health continued to decline.
So, who finally spoke truth into my life, my sister. And what she had to say was exactly what I needed to hear: you can seek out every physician and take every medication that may even remotely help your situation, but until you are willing to take responsibility for your health and realize what you are putting into your body is making you sick you will NEVER get better. Now, I am a medical professional and I spent a great deal of time on this fancy education so yes, that hurt. What was even more devastating to me was the realization that I worked in a field that did not promote or fully believe in the body’s ability to heal itself. Sure, I knew nutrition was important, but did I share this with my patients? Sadly, no. For this reason, and a few others that I may share another day, I made the hard choice to leave emergency nursing. I have since focused my time and energy on helping others achieve wellness.
My beautiful sister and I after the 2014 Omaha Half-Marathon.
So, why am I sharing this story? It has been on my heart for a while now. I love that people desire wellness and so many people have reached out to me in hopes to change their life and health. Over the years I have tried to kindly point out the importance of diet and lifestyle, but I am afraid I have not been forward enough so here is the hard, honest truth:
Until we decide to stop abusing our bodies we will never be well. Until we decide to break our love affair with food we will never be well. Until we stop our habit of being emotional eaters we will never be well. Until we begin to search out answers and take responsibility for our health we will never be well. Until we realize our daily choices have tremendous impact on our future we will never be well.
But, (here comes the ugly part) as much as we want to be well we do not want hard, we do not want anything that even remotely requires putting forth effort, we do not want to make changes to our diet even though it could radically change our lives. We do not want to take the time to exercise. We are far too tired, busy, and complacent. We want to drink soda, eat processed food, and complain because it’s easy and it’s comfortable. Still, we want a quick fix and we want it now. In the end, we spend our lives wishing we felt better and refusing to hear change is up to us.
I understand this is a bit radical, but why not? I also understand some people are just unlucky and no amount of clean eating or exercise will ever restore natural balance or health and for that I am truly sorry. But, for the remainder of us (which mind you, is the majority of us) it is time to get up and aggressively pursue change. Today, I urge you to take full responsibility for yourself and your health. Do not let sickness and illness define you for one more second. It is time you understand wellness is up to you. You need to believe you can change your life, because I’m here to tell you, you can. It’s not easy and it’s not always fun, but the journey is so worth the hurt.
Spend the time to watch this TED video. It is short and powerful!